Confession: To me, it really sucked that you could only marry Alistair if you were a noble female. My first play-through I was a mage and it broke me.
I will NEVER understand why people can’t be happy with the Warden Ending for Alistair. Why must he always have to be married?
My problem is that you don’t find out he’s going to dump you until AFTER you’ve made him king. So on my first playthrough as a mage I made him king thinking WOOT I CAN BE…oh crap…
My second playthrough I gave the throne to Anora.
IDK I just reasoned it out from the background knowledge I picked up along the way. So it was no shock to me I guess (oh, yay! good for me! I know, I know)? I mean, they’re pretty heavy handed about mages and elves not being allowed to do things like have titles and shit.
But then again I didn’t even know the marriage ending was a thing until my second playthrough when I decided to make a HN for my third for that express purpose. It didn’t work out then either but I understand I am in the minority of fandom there and that is OK.
My first playthrough I was HFN but it was also a completely blind playthrough. I actually thought throughout the entire game that the relationship was going to end, because Alistair was really uncomfortable talking about the future and there were a bunch of (I thought) fairly heavy handed hints. Like, Wynne’s talk about Alistair might have to choose duty first, my immediate thought was- Oh shit, is he going to have to be king and dump me? Should I just end it now?
When it came time to choose who to put on the throne, I anguished over it for a while but ultimately decided on Alistair, even though I was absolutely positive it was the end. I had no idea the Warden had any chance at the throne as well. If I had been really set on staying with him at all costs, I would have kept him a Warden and made Anora queen. I mean, I get that I totally lucked out because I happened to pick the one origin that could marry Alistair. But I can’t stress enough the amount of DOOM I felt throughout the relationship, so I kind of feel like the game gives a lot of clues that things likely won’t end well if Alistair is made king. I might just tend to expect the worst though? I don’t know.
It just reminds me of the whole Chantry bomb situation with Anders. While I didn’t expect that, I knew some serious shit was going down (no pun intended). So I remain a bit flabbergasted when people didn’t suspect Anders was up to anything.